Discipline

“…regard for the law…”

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“If you have no regard for the law, you are on the side of the wicked…” (Proverbs 28:4)

Can’t you just hear that lead goose honking, “Put the pedal to the metal”?  Yeah, and trying to keep them off the grass?   Good luck!

As much as we sometimes hate to admit it, rules are important if we’re to live in healthy, fulfilling relationships.  When couples and families come for counseling, I often hear complaints like, “We’re just not compatible,” or “We just can’t communicate,” or, We’re just not in love anymore.”  What I most often find is that they’ve gotten sloppy with the “rules.”  At some point in their relationship they began to “fudge” on the “rules.”  Instead of taking the time, energy, patience, and discipline to follow some fairly simple “rules,” they became more impulsive.  Throwing caution to the wind they mistook “comfort and familiarity” for a license to say and do whatever they felt like letting out.  The result was the hurt, confusion, and despair that brought them to my office for counseling or “couple’s rehab.”

God’s “rules” for healthy, fulfilling life and relationships are laid out in different forms in both the Old and New Testaments of the Bible.  John Wesley, the founder of Methodism, actually summarized them into 3 simple “rules” that I’ll paraphrase here: 1) Do no harm.  2) Do all the good you can. 3) Stay in love with the Lord.

All three “rules” are critical and interconnected.  However, if we focus on the first for just a moment, you can see what I mean by the “fudging.”  If couples use their comfort and familiarity with one another to become sloppy and impulsive, then they begin to exercise their “license to hurt” one another.  “If you have no regard for the law,” you are on a pathway to destruction when it comes to relationships.  I pray that God will remind and discipline me to stay on the pathway to life, love, and joy – not destruction.  How about you?

Blessings and Peace,
Gary
Pastor, Sand Hill United Methodist Church
Boaz, West Virginia


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~ by revgenelson on January 27, 2010.

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